**continued from The Plan*
It’s hard but it’s ALL YOU.
I am not saying losing weight is easy because it is not – most of your battle will be with your own mind but that doesn’t make it any easier.
Eating is ingrained in our society, in our culture, in our minds as a reward, as a socializing tool, as a comfort… so it is perfectly natural that you will grieve the loss of some foods, get insanely jealous that your husband just ordered cheese fries, get down right mad with tears streaming down your face that the party you are attending has NOTHING you can eat. Let yourself cry and then go get that protein bar from your purse because they can all kiss your skinny BUTT later on! When you’ve lost your first 5lbs it will be easier to draw on that success to keep you going, you’ll know how good it feels, but until then just trust in the process and have FAITH IN YOU!
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “but I can’t eat a chicken sandwich without mayo and I HAVE to have my cheese” Well I am here to tell you YES YOU CAN – do you really think that you CANNOT live without mayonaisse? How silly is that? But I understand – heck I’ve been saying that stuff for 10 years myself ! “I love food, I can’t eat lettuce for the rest of my life.” It is quite silly to think that you’ll only eat lettuce for the rest of your life. There are other choices but you are refusing to see them because you are putting limits on yourself. You CAN do it – the difficulty is making up your mind that you WANT to
And funny thing about WANT and WISH – they are ultimately helpful in defining where you want to go but you have to take action, YOU have to take the steps down the path. And if you REALLY want to, you will! Don’t give up your power by saying “I can’t!”
In fact YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE that CAN do it! It is up to YOU – no one, no thing, can do it for you. And that makes it a big responsibility because if you don’t do it – you have only yourself to blame… and that is a hard pill to swallow. It is available to each and every person, one of the few things in life that you have absolute power over. USE IT!
Further notes if you aren’t tired of reading yet!
Just random new things I’ve learned or realized
since originally writing this article:
Go cold turkey – A behavior takes about 3-4 weeks of solid committment and repetition to become a HABIT. I recommend anyone trying a new eating regimine stick to it STRICTLY for at least a month. Everyone says “well I should be able to have ONE cookie” and that is true later on, but for now you need to teach your body that healthy food is good and that YOU are in control of what goes in your mouth, not your subconscious. I think it also a detox time for your body because when you rid your body of sugar and fat, it cries for sugar and fat – let it cry and when it’s appropriate you can incorporate those things in to your diet ON YOUR TERMS.
Strength training – one thing I learned after writing this initial story is how important muscle mass is to your metabolism. In order to keep/build muscle you need to train for strength (not just cardio) – this can include weights (which I have come to LOVE) or bodyweight exercises (like pushups, squats, etc). I lost a lot of weight before I realized this important fact and am now having a very difficult time getting that muscle back – it actually involves purposely gaining some weight and having to lose it again (that stinks!). I encourage you to start strength training before you lose weight for this reason…
My One Year celebration! (with pics!)
RESOURCES AND INSPIRATION:
Protein Powder that I Use (milk based; there are soy based ones, but I read milk based is better) for shakes and making my own bars
Food ideas – fat free but you may have to sub some protein in there at some point!
My absolute favorite resource for food and exercise for burning fat and maintaining muscle – just happens to be pretty darn close to what I was doing Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle
Just a fun exercise page – http://www.fitness-training-at-home.com/
Just for inspiration – books I am loving
Unlimited: How to Build an Exceptional Life (Jillian again)
Strength Training for Women (be prepared to be schooled!)
Winning by Losing (Jillian beginning weight loss)
This book is by the same author as above (which I LOVE) but this one he wrote to a less-hardcore audience, where the advice isn’t so strict and not so technical if you have a hard time following that stuff